All I can say is that it's a lot more work and a lot harder than you can ever imagine. I spent 4 months in OVW's school before I dropped out. Its a lot different for the males in wrestling, but I know it's that much harder for a female to be taken seriously.
My advice to you is if you really want to pursue wrestling you have to pursue it with all your heart and mind. It's not easy and no one is going to try to make it easy for you. Just dont give up and keep reaching as high as you can. Good luck