05-16-2018, 10:58 PM | #321 |
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It's not any different. The argument isn't "Always believe women" vs "Never believe women". It's "Always believe women" vs "Don't always believe women".
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05-16-2018, 11:01 PM | #322 |
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I'm not gonna believe the crazy homeless lady who claims she was raped by George Washington's ghost. That's the extreme example. The less extreme example is not believing the drug addict attention whore who bragged about sex with a guy before deciding to accuse him of rape. Both are more logical reactions than "Well, she's got a vagina so... probably telling the truth." That's setting a horrifying precedent.
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05-16-2018, 11:01 PM | #323 | |
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05-16-2018, 11:04 PM | #324 | |
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And yep, he is a dumbass for not telling WWE. If that's their motivation (coupled with his shit attitude) for keeping him fired then that's cool. I'm not talking about the news sites anyways. I'm talking about here. And enough of pretty much civilians participating in most discourse. "Dude gets accused of rape and doesn't end up getting charged" usually turns into "well statistics show that he likely did it". It's ugly. Rape is certainly uglier. But it is different to many crimes given its social implications. To act like women faking accusations is laughable is very naive. |
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05-16-2018, 11:05 PM | #325 |
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05-16-2018, 11:05 PM | #326 |
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If my options are "always believe women based off imaginary data" or "always reject women if there is a lack of data" i know which way im leaning.
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05-16-2018, 11:06 PM | #327 |
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05-16-2018, 11:07 PM | #328 |
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And if you want to ask "why would a woman lie about being raped?", ask yourself "why would a man rape a woman?" The argument commonly used for the latter question is it's about power.
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05-16-2018, 11:09 PM | #329 |
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Gotta go with the TODDSTER here. We're talking about us hombres in this conversation (and most civil discourse). Most twitter/youtube threads are the dregs. I think we all line up closer than you think. Enough so that we can have a productive discussion.
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05-16-2018, 11:18 PM | #330 | |
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But I digress, I have a different feeling on this issue, you/WWF Fan/Destor have your own and I doubt anything I post would shift your view nor yours on mine. Same for whenever the topic of mental health or other touchy issues pop up on TPWW and I quickly realize my view is a lot different than others here. That's when I start to realize maybe it might be time to move on from here. |
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05-16-2018, 11:38 PM | #331 | |
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The idea isn't "They were accused so they must be guilty" but rather there's a good chance the accused could be based on stats. I assume when somebody's accused of anything, the chance of them being innocent/guilty is 50/50 (before I hear of the evidence involved).
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05-17-2018, 12:54 AM | #332 |
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We're saying "blindly believing all women is a horrible idea" and you're determined to vilify that logic by lumping us in with some internet trolls who say "never believe a woman" as opposed to listening to what we're actually saying. And we're somehow the ones who aren't interested in a productive conversation. You're being insanely dishonest. I agree we'll never come to an understanding because it's obvious from that alone that that isn't your M.O.
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05-17-2018, 01:15 AM | #333 |
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Would be interesting to see the reaction if some batshit crazy lady with no credibility accused a wrestler people actually like of rape with no evidence that she's being truthful and actual evidence that suggests she's lying. Like... if Daniel Bryan were in this situation instead of Enzo, I wonder if he would basically be considered guilty.
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05-17-2018, 01:44 AM | #334 |
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Enzo got fired for lying/not disclosing to the WWE about the investigation. Also he had already been on thin ice and kicked off the WWE bus by Roman Reigns.
He was a big-headed jerk and this was the excuse WWE was looking for to cut ties. He was over like rover but couldn't get out of his own way. Badda boom, stupidest fuck in the room. How is he doing? |
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A crime likely being committed (not specifically referring to this case) does not mean guilty beyond a reasonable doubt. And being acquitted doesn't mean that a crime was not committed. Quote:
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No one is saying that because he was accused he did it. It is unlikely that the girl made it up. That's just a fact. Could she have made it up? Sure. But is it likely? No. If it were true, would there be more evidence? Unfortunately, not necessarily. It's a big, dark mess. Does he deserve to be treated like a rapist? No. That's why he's not going to prison. Quote:
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05-17-2018, 02:45 AM | #336 |
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What doesn't sit well with me when discussing things like this is the inherent fact that someone is lying. Either the woman is lying or Enzo is lying. It's possible both are lying. It's possible both think they are telling the truth, but objective reality suggests that they can't both be telling it. What's really unsettling to me is just how comfortable a lot of dudes are with saying that it's the chick that's lying. You don't even need to say that Enzo is lying, but the idea that this is just a dark and messy situation with a definitive victim (of some description) that they should not have to go through is kind of brushed aside in favor of "she's a crack whore, she can't be trusted." Not an actual quote from anyone, but the sentiment floats around and it makes me want to destroy the entire internet.
People that aren't perceived as having any credibility can be raped too. Homeless people, drug addicts, compulsive liars. It doesn't just exist for good girls who tell the truth all the time and don't touch coke. I wonder how many of the people crying poor Enzo would honestly defend a woman in this situation if she came up on charges without there being enough evidence that she was actually making it up? I think Dale would, and I'd like to think #fan and Destor would, but it's something to give some thought about whether or not this is really about a lack of evidence, or just what the charge implies. |
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What doesn't sit well with me is that people want to assign some statistical value to each party as to which is more likely to be the liar. Each case is different, each person is different; women being statistically less likely to lie than men in this situation should have no bearing whatsoever on a specific case.
I'm not siding with Enzo. I'm not siding against his accuser. I'm erring on the side of caution because some statistical analysis of completely different people who have nothing to do with this case means nothing to me when I'm trying to determine my own personal judgement of this singular situation. And unlike some people, I'm not willing to convict Enzo just because he has a penis which supposedly means he's more likely to be the one spinning a yarn. |
05-17-2018, 08:26 AM | #338 |
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I wish the Duke Lacrosse team would weigh in on this.
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05-17-2018, 08:31 AM | #339 |
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05-17-2018, 11:00 AM | #340 | |
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And yes, you're not saying that Enzo definitely did it. But when you keep making it clear "well, he could have still done it because women don't tend to lie about rape", you're clearly implying where the odds lean. Why is my extreme example so crazy? Because there's other factors at play that make it seem unlikely? If so, congrats. You're using the same logic we've been using the entire time. We're on the same page. |
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05-17-2018, 11:19 AM | #342 |
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ain't no one pounding no believing men
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05-17-2018, 11:28 AM | #343 |
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05-17-2018, 11:38 AM | #346 |
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She's in prison for murder apparently. Didn't see that coming.
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05-17-2018, 11:43 AM | #347 |
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Oh yeah I think I remember that. Fuck.
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05-17-2018, 12:02 PM | #348 |
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The police Sgt on the case committed suicide.
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05-17-2018, 12:56 PM | #351 |
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because this conversation has been about gender and sex as much as anything else.
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I don't think I made that quote. You're splicing two halves of two different points together. "Women don't usually lie about rape" is one point. That's true. I don't see your big problem with that and why that truth makes you uncomfortable. The second is that "he could have still done it, because there not being enough evidence to convict doesn't mean it didn't happen," which is not an outlandish statement ever. If there are two children who could have eaten the cookies from a cookie jar, and you can't be sure who it was, and they each accuse the other and you don't have the evidence to accuse either one, it doesn't mean that the cookies weren't eaten. In this case: Maybe there were no eaten cookies? Maybe there were? We don't know, but where I disagree is when you say there definitely aren't because you can't be sure an accused party actually did it. You just shouldn't blame them for eating cookies if you aren't sure cookies have been eaten. But you also shouldn't go around calling someone with an empty cookie jar with crumbs in it a liar also. I think you've been far too biased with your application of what makes it "unlikely." I mean, neither of us has access to any sort of psychological assessment on the girl, but if I remember you were someone saying that because she "bragged" about it in a text, it means she couldn't have not given consent? I'm sure there's a proper name for it, but when people are abused you often see them try to take ownership over that abuse by compartmentalizing it differently in their mind. It's like disassociation, I suppose, but you see it in younger abuse victims all the time. They will almost brag about being hurt or make it seem like no big deal. It doesn't mean nothing's happened to them, man. Not everyone responds with tears at the time. The only other thing is the guy that says she's a liar. But if he's a liar... It's dumb. It's really fucking dumb to discuss this like either of us has intimate knowledge of what is happening. I'm just put-off by people so willing to attack the credibility of a woman reporting a crime, of which false reports I believe are still felonies, making it extremely disadvantageous. |
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Lol, Enzo isn't getting prosecuted right now. So many people are like "Innocent until proven guilty" then when Enzo gets off because there isn't definitive proof that he is guilty they are still beating that drum for some reason. |
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05-17-2018, 01:30 PM | #358 |
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Sexism and misogyny are always implied in these discussions.
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Look, some people in here know what is up, so I don't feel the need to win anyone else over, and I just feel gross talking about this. Here are my final thoughts:
* It is true that women rarely report false sexual assault claims. There is nothing outlandish about this claim. If it makes you uncomfortable, seek help. * Enzo was accused of sexual assault. It was unlikely to be a false report given statistics. These are not evidence. No one is saying that they are. * Enzo was released from the WWE because of the compounded issue of the allegations, his disclosure of them, his attitude in general, and probably his lack of talent. See Heath Slater for someone who was accused of sexual harassment/assault, handled it correctly, and still has a job today. This is not a violation of Enzo's right to due process. * Upon investigaton, it was discovered that there was not enough evidence to charge Enzo. This does not mean he did it, nor that he didn't do it. It means what it suggests -- that there is not enough evidence to charge Enzo. As a result, due to the legal process, Enzo is a free man until more evidence can be uncovered, if it exists at all, if a crime was committed at all. * Rape allegations should still be taken very seriously, considering the fact that they are not usually fabricated. Men and women with substance abuse problems can be assaulted too, and their past shouldn't dismiss their credibility. A healthy amount of skepticism can be taken whilst still investigating. People in these situations can be preyed upon and can lie about all the circumstances surrounding an event and the core incident can still be true. |
05-17-2018, 01:35 PM | #360 |
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Look at it like this Noid.
With what we know about the accuser, we've used our intuition and critical thinking skills to say "ehhhh we don't buy it". The lack of evidence for a case only supports this feeling. Honestly, this is just what we know. We weren't there. We'll likely never know what happened that night. My main issue is this will stain Enzo's reputation. Given I believe with what has been presented to me that he didn't do it, I think that is awful. And I'm aware crazy immature drug addicts get raped. In fact, given the lifestyle, probably more frequently than less at-risk people. Still doesn't make this specific lunatic credible. The story seemed to have holes in it from the beginning. |